21.10.20 FeaturesWhy you need to make time for you, wherever you are

Why you need to make time for you, wherever you are

So often we plan our days thinking about who we need to meet, where we need to be, what we need to get done but how often do you set aside time in your day for you? A little time to do something you love or to simply stop, relax and reset?

As the talented designer Diane Von Furstenberg so wisely says, “it is so important to take time for yourself and find clarity. The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.” The sad reality is that too many of us put that relationship last. It is all too common that we tend to ‘save’ what we love to do or the art of just ‘doing nothing’ for short spurts in the year such as holidays or the occasional Sunday that affords us the time but…what if we carved out a little time every day for self care?

According to Forbes there are a multitude of benefits to a little alone time including increased productivity, creativity and mental strength.

Self care is selfish
This is surely something most have heard (and felt) before. The problem is, if we continue to give out, to serve/deliver for others then…what will we have left? If your car ran out of petrol or your phone ran out of charge, you would immediately find the closest gas station or socket. For some reason, when this happens to us, we may ‘feel’ it but too often we just keep going, not allowing for the time to stop and fill up our own tank.

Let’s look at another example that most can relate to. The good ol’ oxygen mask in the plane example. If the oxygen masks in the plane drop, any adult is always instructed to fasten their mask first before helping others. Why? Because if they can’t breathe, they are very little help to those around them that need them. The same applies to life. When we give to ourselves first, we can give so much more to others.

Serve from your saucer
So if a car drives better on petrol and a phone will work at its best on full charge then wouldn’t it make sense that you can give more to others if your cup is full? As self-help guru Lisa Nichols so perfectly put it, “your job is to fill your own cup, so it overflows. Then you can serve others, joyfully, from your saucer.” Let us bring this to life with another example of a market store. If I wanted to buy oranges and I saw an orange store at a market that had sold out of oranges, I wouldn’t go in. Why? Because they don’t have what I need. The same applies with giving love, attention, focus, our skill-set. If we have filled our tank/ recharged our battery, we have so much more to give.

Finding what fills your cup:
This is truly a personal thing. There is no right or wrong way to fill your cup. It might be reading a book, enjoying a cup of coffee, a glass of whisky after work, a morning/lunch time/evening walk, meditating or sitting doing absolutely sweet nothing. If you know what it is then great…off you go and timetable that goodness in. If you still aren’t sure, that’s a-ok! Just commit to the process of trying different things at different times and see what works for you – not your neighbour, not your mum, not your co-worker – what works for you! And then…do more of tha

As Jean Shinoda Bolen so wisely said, “when you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.” Because when you do…everyone around you will be better off too.

Photo by averie woodard on Unsplash

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