12.10.20 MindspaceDoing f**k all – the new guilt-free ritual

Doing f**k all - the new guilt-free ritual

When was the last time you did absolutely nothing? When was the last time you woke up and thought…’I have nothing that I need to do, no one I need to see and no where I need to go today?’. When was the last time you turned your back on your laptop – not to run anywhere or take that bathroom break you meant to take three hours ago – but to do no-thing?

Doing sweet f**k all requires nothing, costs nothing and doesn’t need any planning but yet, for most of us, it is the hardest thing to do.

Hello discomfort
Doing nothing can feel awkward, uncomfortable and often comes with a side order of guilt. Doing nothing (aka a lil self care time) isn’t something most of us openly give to ourselves. Have you ever gone away on a holiday and for the first couple of days you just don’t feel right? You can’t relax and perhaps you don’t know why but…by day three you are really in the groove of this ‘relaxation gig’. If you can relate to this, have you ever wondered why? Well because your mind is freaking out! For the majority of society, the mind’s default setting is ‘action’ and when it’s not doing/racing/delivering/achieving, it starts to freak out by pumping you with feelings of discomfort. And when we feel discomfort, our normal reaction is to retreat to our old ways. Unless you acknowledge this unconscious ‘operation self sabotage’ and stick it out until (approximately) day 3. You will have then won the battle against the mind and…if you can achieve this then welcome on board the relaxation train. Destination? Fabulous!

Doing nothing can give you so much
While doing nothing can bring with it discomfort, it is worth the effort. According to Craig Coggle from Tinybuddha, ‘doing nothing feels like the complete opposite of being productive, but after you’ve tried it you will see how effective it can be. He suggests scheduling time to ‘do nothing’ in your day just as you would schedule an important board meeting or an annual check up. Coggle goes on to so wisely say, ‘it doesn’t take a huge change in your lifestyle—perhaps just a change in your thinking.’ But remember troops, doing nothing isn’t scrolling through your facebook or instagram feed. It’s not watching the next season of ‘Emily in Paris’ on Netflix. It’s doing nothing! If you have trouble getting your head around it, think of it as giving your mind a little time off. Even if it’s just for 5 minutes at a time and…if your mind starts to freak out on you, make sure to remind it who is boss! They say that the mind is like a drunken monkey bitten by 100 scorpions so if you feel a little out of sorts as you begin the journey of ‘doing nothing’, it’s a-ok! Just don’t stop trying to do nothing!

In the words of Oscar Wilde, ‘To do nothing at all is the most difficult thing in the world, the most difficult and the most intellectual.’ So why not look at your calendar for next week, acknowledge it might not be easy and schedule a lil time for absolutely nothing. Try to leave the guilt out of it, acknowledge that intoxicated, monkey bitten mind and commit to change through the tunnel of potential discomfort because the stories and research show that a world of wonder awaits on the other side!

Photo by Kristina Flour on Unsplash

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